[Landen 5/3/06 Lane 6/1/09]

It could be just the new mom jitters everyone I know including me has gone through what you explained. After my first I don't remember as much "down" time I cried and felt low but after my second son was born I felt the frustration with BFing, I felt guilty when my 3 yo would go stay somewhere cause I wanted to be able to spend time with him, I couldn't hold him so I felt terrible (I had c-sections with both pregnancies) I had to go back to work 6 weeks later where with Landen I got 4 months with him! It was overwhelming I was pumping and nursing and I just couldn't do all that and still take care of my household responsibilities and work so I began supplementing formula I still nurse Lane just on my lunch breaks and at night and when he wakes for a feeding in the middle of the night it was hard cause then I felt guilty cause I didn't nurse exclusively for the amount of time that I did his brother! But Nearly 5 months later he is a fat and HEALTHY baby his developement is right on schedule! I say do what you have to do to keep your sanity! It will be better for you and your baby! Good Luck and congrats!

[Nelly]

I have a 3 month old and I'm also a first time mother. Being a new mother can be very stressful. Also Breastfeeding can literally drain you. I wanted to give up also. Then my neighbor told me that any woman who has ever breastfed has wanted to give up. I kept breastfeeding and it has gotten better. I'm so glad that I didn't give up.

You may have baby blues. Try to get rest. Whenever the baby sleeps, you need to sleep. Yeah I know, hard to do when you also have to fit in eating and getting a shower.

Remember breast is best. They keep finding stuff in formulas that really shouldn't be there.

Between weeks 4-6 is when you can introduce a bottle. What I did was pump out my milk so that my husband could feed the baby. You can rent a pump or buy one. The Medela brand of breast pumps are really good. A new one is over $300, but well worth it. You can also find a used for cheaper on E-bay. As long as you sterilize all the parts you'll be fine getting a used one. if you plan on getting another pump make sure you read reviews about it online first. Just enter the product followed by the word reviews on yahoo or another search engine.

this reply was longer than I intended. sorry. Hope it helped!!

[precious me]

The begining can be rough and sometimes stressful when you have outher stuff going on like college. Give it time you will get use to it. It will get better I promise. Iam also a first time mom my son is 3 months now and we are all doing fine . I was also very tired and frustrated at the begining. Have the daddy or a close relative or friend to take care of the baby for a couple of hours and you go and have some time to your self, It will help.

[kaja]

It sounds like you are just adapting to your new you "Mommy"! I went through the same thing, maybe it does have something to do with delivery as my son was born six weeks early by emergency c section! He was also perfectly healthy and did great at breastfeeding but everything you are describing is what i went through sometimes worse! I would say it is normal but if you are concerned definitely go see a therapist for the well being of your child and yourself! Best of luck to you, it all gets better!